"Dad's Secret Life: Siblings Stunned and Angry Over Shocking Revelations"

A reader seeks advice on how to handle the discovery that their father, who has been married for over 30 years, is having sexual relations with other men. The father had accused the reader's brother of being gay, causing anger and confusion. The reader found evidence of their father's secret life and wonders whether to confront him, how to forgive him, and whether to tell their mother. Dear Abby advises having a conversation with the father, setting a deadline for him to come clean with the mother, and emphasizes the importance of addressing the anger and self-hatred projected onto the brother.