Navigating Friendship Challenges: Carolyn Hax's Advice on Complaint Triangles and Questioning Spouses

A person seeks advice on how to handle a situation where their partner refuses to help install safety barriers for their friend's cats, causing tension in the friendship. The columnist suggests that the partner's behavior is obnoxious and advises the person to address the issue with their partner. In another question, a grandparent asks about setting limits on device usage for their granddaughters. The columnist advises finding a balance between setting rules and respecting the girls' input to avoid alienating them.