Consent Without Desire: Navigating a Sexless Marriage

A reader asks if his wife’s lack of interest in sex but occasional consent could be coercive or illegal. The advisor says it’s unlikely to be rape since the wife has consented and her choice appears voluntary, though it could become coercive if pressure or obligation (including religious or cultural duty) is involved. The takeaway is to check in about stress or pressure, discuss boundaries openly, and prioritize a relationship where both partners freely choose sexual activity and feel you’re both comfortable with the arrangement.