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Dad's 'Safe' Pot Experiment Sparks a Family Dilemma
An aunt catches her brother’s 12-year-old and 14-year-old nephews smoking weed at his house; he admits giving them permission, claiming it’s safer to have them do it there where he can supervise. She should first talk with him to understand his reasoning and any underlying issues, address safety and marijuana risks, and avoid informing the nephews’ mother until she has full context, since the situation could affect custody and family trust.
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