Boundaries Over Blood: How to Respond to a Demanding Brother

A Slate Advice reader recounts how her brother and his wife expect the family to provide extensive childcare and burn vacation days, citing their own difficulties while the writer recalls the lack of a support village and past sacrifices. Rather than sending a scathing reply, the columnist suggests a calm, thoughtful letter or in-person conversation that acknowledges the brother's struggles, sets clear boundaries, and offers help only when feasible, to preserve family ties without overextending oneself.