Keeping My Online Viewing Habits a Secret from My Wife

A man in his late 30s, married for over 10 years, is grappling with a newfound interest in gay and trans porn, which conflicts with his heterosexual lifestyle and marriage. He fears his wife would not approve of opening their relationship, leading to potential divorce. Slate's sex advice columnists suggest he should communicate these feelings to his wife rather than consider cheating, as open dialogue could lead to understanding or counseling. They emphasize the importance of honesty and exploring one's full self while respecting relationship boundaries.