Setting boundaries with neighbors over neurodiversity: practical steps to stay comfortable

A reader with autism describes facing persistent rude and dismissive comments from neighbors who label her as 'fidgety.' In Dear Eric, the columnist reassures that fidgeting is not a problem, that she doesn't owe explanations for her neurodiversity, and recommends practical coping strategies: use clearly visible headphones instead of earbuds, consider a visible badge or sign to signal how others should interact, and prioritize comfort to avoid sensory overload—empowering her to set boundaries without feeling forced to medicate.