"Understanding the Importance of Motives in Questioning a Friend's Uptight Spouse"

In two separate advice columns, Carolyn Hax addresses concerns about a friend's controlling spouse and a teenager's changing feelings in a relationship. Hax advises being there for the friend, offering support and guidance without judgment, and suggests using the National Domestic Violence Hotline for further assistance. In the case of the teenager, Hax encourages open communication, asking questions to help the teenager navigate her feelings and reminding her that it's normal to experience changes in relationships during adolescence.