Dangerous Desires: Setting Boundaries with a Thrill-Seeking Partner

A reader asks about her thrill-seeking boyfriend who wants her to perform oral sex while he speeds down a highway in a sports car. The advisor says this is dangerous for both her and other drivers, notes that repeatedly pressing a boundary after a 'no' is coercive, and urges a firm refusal and, if necessary, leaving her partner. The takeaway: prioritize safety and clear limits, and consider ending the relationship if he won’t respect boundaries.