Balancing a Partner's Lingerie Fetish Without Losing Yourself

A wife describes six years of her husband’s cross‑dressing fetish—lingerie, makeup, wigs, and provocative talk—that has come to dominate their sex life, including fantasies about other men and anal play. She asks how to set boundaries without erasing his desires. The adviser suggests a concrete, lingerie‑free request for their next session, then evaluating the impact on their connection; it also notes the fetish may be persistent and urges honest discussion about whether she can live with a sex life centered on his fantasies or if tougher choices are needed.