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health-and-wellness9 days ago•12 min saved

Slate’s Jessica Stoya advises young women to prioritize attraction over frequency to overcome sexual anxiety

Slate’s sex advice column addresses a reader in her early 20s who struggles with low libido and performance anxiety. The advice emphasizes that forcing sexual activity without genuine attraction is counterproductive. Instead, the columnist suggests exploring specific interests, such as soft dominance, through media or low-pressure events to build confidence and identify what actually generates arousal.

via Slate|

#desire #health-and-wellness #jessica-stoya

relationships-and-sexuality2 years ago•13 min saved

"The Biggest Myth About Desire in Long-Term Relationships, Debunked by a Sex Educator"

Sex educator Emily Nagoski challenges the myth of spontaneous desire in long-term relationships, arguing that the traditional narrative of passion fading over time is wrong. She introduces the concept of the "desire imperative," which places too much emphasis on spontaneous desire and overlooks the importance of pleasure in sexual well-being. Nagoski advocates for centering pleasure over spark, highlighting the significance of responsive desire and the role of context in experiencing pleasure. She emphasizes that pleasure, not desire, should be the focus of sexual well-being, and suggests that worrying about desire is unnecessary when pleasure is prioritized.

via The Guardian|

#desire #long-term-relationships #pleasure

relationships2 years ago•9 min saved

The Dark Side of Online Connections: My Perfect Relationship Conceals an Addiction to Sexting and Cheating

A person in a satisfying long-term relationship is struggling with a new hobby of sexting with others online, seeking validation and novelty. They are unsure why they are doing it and how to stop. The advice suggests exploring the possibility of open communication and modification in the current relationship to fulfill their desires. Another question addresses a man's frustration with his wife's lack of interest in sex, suggesting empathy, understanding menopause's impact, and discussing options like responsive desire, counseling, or an open relationship. Lastly, a person with a heterosexual background expresses a strong bi-curious urge to perform fellatio and seeks guidance on discreetly exploring this fantasy, including using hook-up apps, visiting adult bookstores, or talking to a sex-positive community leader.

via Slate|

#desire #long-term-relationship #open-relationship

relationships3 years ago•12 min saved

"Expert Therapist Reveals Answers to Taboo Mid-Life Sex Questions"

Psycho-sexual therapist Kate Moyle answers seven common mid-life sex questions, emphasizing the importance of communication, understanding, and exploration. She explains that good sex is about connection, discovery, and treating partners with respect. Moyle advises against focusing on the frequency of sex and instead encourages couples to prioritize the quality of their sexual experiences. She suggests ways to avoid boredom in long-term relationships, addresses common concerns about erectile dysfunction, discusses desire discrepancies, explores the concept of mindful sex, and offers tips for building confidence after a breakup.

via Daily Mail|

#communication #confidence #desire